After posting Pronouns 101 and Pronouns 102, I’ve started receiving some questions from readers! I will happily answer these anonymously — you can send your own questions to me via my twitter. This is my second reader question; the first one I answered in a previous post.
From Gloria Mellesmoen on Twitter:
This is a question I’ve gotten from a few people over the years, basically summed up as: WHAT do I do when someone lists multiple sets of pronouns?
My very short answer: it depends on the person, and your relationship with them, and the context. …
In my AMA on #InternationalPronounsDay 2020, one question I really appreciated was this:
Are there times when using they is just as wrong/harmful as using he or she incorrectly? Is there an asymmetry of how hurtful it is when I use the wrong pronoun?
Short answer: using they for someone who doesn’t use they/them as (one of their) pronouns can be implicit misgendering, which is the inappropriate use of non-gendered words when gendered words might be more appropriate. This can be a problem because trans and gender-nonconforming people are much more subject to implicit (and explicit!) misgendering than cis people…
For International Pronouns Day on October 21st, 2020, I joined with Nathan Dors from UW IT, who’s been working on incorporating pronouns in UW’s internal ID system, which is used by students, staff, and faculty in academic and professional settings. We held a joint “Ask Me Anything” session, which was attended by UW students, staff, faculty, and other guests.
This post is a summary of the questions we discussed, which I’m really belatedly writing up for two reasons: 1) I want to share the cute slides I made on twitter, but that means I also want the text to be…
or, How To Do Participation Grades Better In General, And It Transfers Pretty Good To Zoom Teaching, Too!
This is a write-up of a short, semi-formal presentation I gave for the Fall 2020 UW Linguistics Department Annual TA Workshop, which is the workshop that our department does in addition to the training linguistics TAs get through the UW Center for Teaching and Learning. The slides from that workshop will also be available on my website at some point.
When we talk about assessing and encouraging “participation” in any college class, but especially in online classes during pandemic teaching, what are…
The new Pronouns blog is terrific, and I’ve already sent it to several people.
One comment on Pronouns 102, since you specifically say “Let me know!” for “Why do you keep messing up?”: I think a real category is “the person’s name/physical presentation doesn’t match traditional interpretations of their new pronoun, and it’s confusing.”
I have a friend who has always presented as very masculine, and…
Pronouns are hard! There is a reason for that (the reason is… linguistics), but the fact of the matter is, many people find it very difficult to switch pronouns for a person, or to use certain pronouns at all. This post isn’t about getting into the why, but more going about the how to get better.
The target audience for this post is anyone who finds themselves messing up someone else’s pronouns, or misgendering people on accident, but you really want to get better. If you don’t want to get better, close out of your browser and turn off your…
Your loved one (friend? family member? coworker whose feelings you give a shit about?) has asked you to use different pronouns than the ones you’ve been previously using! This post is intended as a very introductory post on how to get started — if you need help beyond just getting started, check out pronouns 102, which is aimed at trouble-shooting if you’ve been trying for a while but are just struggling to get it right.
Pronouns are words used to stand in for a whole noun phrase or proper name, because it gets really tiring to say someone’s name over…
I asked on twitter a while back:
Cis people, have you ever tried out different pronouns besides your current primary ones? I got a lot of responses like this:
-> I want to, but I'm not ready for the conversations that it would bring up.
-> I started to try, but then backed out of it.
-> I haven't done it on purpose but sometimes people use different pronouns for me randomly and I like it.
-> I say __/they but people mostly revert to the (primary, cis-compliant) one, so I don't know what it really feels like.
Yes, it is hard to say for my English mouth — why do I want it to be NaNoSquiMo? Maybe because it rhymes… But NaSquiWriMo stands for National Squib Writing Month. I’ll be doing this in November, and I invite you to join me!
You perhaps have many questions!
Q: Kirby do you really need a national ANYTHING writing month? Aren’t you writing a ton of stuff already?
A: Oh my god no yeah totally. That’s why it will be a squib.
Q: A what.
It is now a little ways into the first week of my newly-launched microfellowship (does this make me a microfellow?), which I called the Fellowship for Ants (does this make me an Ant Fellow?), and I wanted to share how it’s going.
First, and most importantly, I am FLABBERGASTED and deeply moved by the support that followed my launch. I have had over a dozen one-time donors and eight recurring donors sign on to support my work. This is more than I expected, and I am deeply grateful and honored for the response. Many of the donors are my colleagues…
Dr. Conrod is a linguist and scholar sort of at large. They write about transgender stuff, the linguistics of pronouns, and ways to work with your brain.