How to do the absolute minimum (with pronouns)

  1. Slow down! Plan your speech! We would rather you talk carefully and thoughtfully if it means you can meet our needs
  2. If you’re corrected, LISTEN. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been talked over while trying to correct someone. Cultivate awareness
  3. Don’t make excuses. That’s not interesting or helpful for us, and it sounds like you’re trying to convince us to let you misgender us
  4. If you mess up, correct yourself briefly and don’t make a big deal out of it. We’d rather it didn’t interrupt the whole conversation

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Dr. Conrod is a linguist and scholar sort of at large. They write about transgender stuff, the linguistics of pronouns, and ways to work with your brain.

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Kirby Conrod

Kirby Conrod

Dr. Conrod is a linguist and scholar sort of at large. They write about transgender stuff, the linguistics of pronouns, and ways to work with your brain.

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