Intermediate Pronoun Studies: pronouns conflicting with presentation

figure with a yellow jacket, purple hair, and glasses pointing at a blackboard that says “pronoun studies: question time!”

I have a two-part answer: 1.) repetition and reinforcement, and 2.) work on shifting your mental paradigm.

First part: Repetition and reinforcement

Second part: shift your mental paradigm of gender and pronouns in general

flowchart of when to use du or Sie in German; PDF version available https://bibliobrary.net/2010/01/04/when-to-use-du-and-sie
Source: When to use du and Sie

tl;dr

  • a VERY SHORT primer that is aimed at how to do the absolute minimum when you use pronouns about anyone!
  • pronouns 101 is an introductory guide on how to start using new pronouns for someone
  • pronouns 102 is about what to do if you’ve been trying for a while, but are still really struggling
  • a very short post on why it’s not okay to pressure someone to share their pronouns
  • a post on what to do if YOU want to try new pronouns, but aren’t sure you’re trans

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Dr. Conrod is a linguist and scholar sort of at large. They write about transgender stuff, the linguistics of pronouns, and ways to work with your brain.

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Kirby Conrod

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Dr. Conrod is a linguist and scholar sort of at large. They write about transgender stuff, the linguistics of pronouns, and ways to work with your brain.

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