The Problem With Pronoun Practices

Step one: make space for pronoun sharing but don’t require it

Step one point five: allow for a private place to share pronouns

Step two: lead by example from a position of authority

Step three: fold it into how you communicate other etiquette

TL;DR

  1. Make pronoun sharing an option, but don’t force anyone to do it
  2. Give people more than one chance to share pronouns, and ideally set up a channel that won’t make people feel anxious
  3. People in authority are responsible for establishing the politeness norms in any setting (classroom or company)
  4. Pronouns are one of many other norms of politeness, and being explicit about your expectations saves people from trying to read your mind about that stuff

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Dr. Conrod is a linguist and scholar sort of at large. They write about transgender stuff, the linguistics of pronouns, and ways to work with your brain.

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Kirby Conrod

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Dr. Conrod is a linguist and scholar sort of at large. They write about transgender stuff, the linguistics of pronouns, and ways to work with your brain.

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